I’m Stacey.
Attorney. Educator. Somatic practitioner. Late-diagnosed ND woman. Mother.
And the person ND families call when they’re out of bandwidth, out of trust,
and out of places where their nervous systems feel safe.*
MY WORK DIDN’T START IN A CLASSROOM OR COURTROOM.
IT STARTED IN MY BODY.
Before I became the creator of the Somatic IEP Method™…
Before I built the Somatic EF Method™…
Before I supported ND families across dozens of schools in dozens of states…
Before any degree, credential, or title
I was a late-diagnosed neurodivergent woman trying to make sense of a world that constantly demanded a version of me I could not sustainably perform.
And then I became a mother. A mother of ND kids navigating systems that misunderstood them,
I know what it’s like to:
receive an email from school and feel your stomach drop
sit in an IEP meeting and forget the words you practiced
freeze, fawn, or shut down while people talk over you
cry in your car afterward because you held it together too long
mask your intelligence so you won’t be dismissed
blame yourself for not being “organized enough”
carry the entire mental load of a household on inconsistent energy
collapse at night because your body is beyond its bandwidth
None of this is a personal failing.
It is the natural impact of navigating systems built without ND nervous systems in mind.
My work exists to end that.
I AM NOT A NEUTRAL PRACTITIONER.
I AM A SYSTEM DISRUPTOR.
I’ve sat in 300+ IEP meetings over two decades: as an attorney, a teacher, a consultant, and a mother.
I’ve worked inside schools and against them.
I’ve seen the gaps, the gaslighting, the patterns, the power dynamics, and the trauma cycles.
I’ve also navigated:
sensory overload
shutdown
late-diagnosis grief
masking exhaustion
EF collapse
burnout
chronic dysregulation
I work from lived experience + professional expertise + somatic training.
I don’t pathologize ND traits.
I don’t apologize for telling the truth.
I won’t make you shrink to fit a system that harms you.
WHY I CREATED THE SOMATIC IEP METHOD™
Because parents don’t need more information. They need nervous-system safety.
The research is clear: Parents freeze, fawn, or shut down in IEP meetings not because they’re unprepared. But because their bodies are overwhelmed, threatened, or retraumatized.
The Somatic IEP Method™ integrates:
somatic regulation
trauma-informed pacing
ND-affirming interpretation
advocacy strategy
legal process clarity
emotional repair
It’s the first IEP framework designed to support the whole parent not just the paperwork.
Children thrive when their mothers stop drowning
WHY I CREATED THE SOMATIC EF METHOD™
Because ND people don’t fail EF. EF tools fail ND people.
Traditional EF coaching is built for neurotypical brains and productivity culture.
ND women, ND teens, ND young adults, and ND grad students need something entirely different.
The Somatic EF Method™ supports:
shutdown mapping
emotional load reduction
sensory overwhelm
identity reconstruction
self-trust
pacing based on capacity, not expectation
nervous-system-first routines
sustainable systems that flex with energy
WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO WORK WITH ME
Working with me is:
grounded
slow where it needs to be
intense where it matters
deeply validating
no shame
no jargon
no pressure to “perform wellness”
If you show up dysregulated, scattered, late, or dissociated we don’t push through.
We start with your body.
We regulate the room.
We rebuild clarity from the inside out.
You will never be rushed.
You will never be dismissed.
You will never be made to feel like “the problem.”
MY ACCOMMODATIONS (YES, THEY’RE FOR ADULTS)
Because trauma-informed practice isn’t a buzzword.
You can request:
camera-off sessions
slower pacing
transcripts
written summaries
somatic grounding at the start
pauses whenever needed
flexible thinking time
reduced-sensory options
Your nervous system is a participant in the work not an obstacle.
MY VALUES
Truth over politeness
Regulation over performance
Clarity over compliance
Somatics over shame
Access over perfection
Liberation over appeasement
These aren’t slogans.
They’re the spine of my work.
WHO I SERVE
ND mothers who are exhausted from holding everything
ND women reconstructing their identity post-diagnosis
ND teens in shutdown cycles
ND young adults drowning in unstructured time
ND grad students masking under pressure
Parents in IEP trauma loops
Families dismissed or misunderstood by schools
If you’ve ever felt “too much,” you’ve simply been carrying too much with too little support.
WHY THIS WORK MATTERS
Because ND families deserve:
somatic safety
honest advocacy
spaces where their nervous systems can land
tools built for their brains
practitioners who don’t gaslight them
systems that recognize their humanity
support that doesn’t demand masking
You deserve a life that honors your body.
Your child deserves support that honors theirs.
Credentials & Professional Training
Esq. (JD): 20+ years in law and systems negotiation
Master’s in Education: Former classroom teacher seeking solutions from the inside
Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP): Certified in nervous system regulation and trauma physiology
Neurodivergent Leadership Coach : Specializing in ADHD, dyslexia, autism, and executive function through a nervous system lens
Founder of The Neurodivergent Uprising : a nervous system leadership movement
Author of The Neurodivergent Uprising and Nervous System Economics
Publications and Presentation KeyNotes Available on Request
LET’S BEGIN
You don’t have to be regulated to start.
You don’t have to have the perfect words.
You don’t have to pretend it isn’t overwhelming.
Come exactly as you are dysregulated, scared, scattered, hopeful, exhausted, or ready.
I will meet you where your nervous system actually is.
And together, we’ll build something that holds you.