School refusal isn’t defiance it’s data. Data that something in the system isn’t working, and your child is carrying the cost.

This toolkit arms you with:
✅ Scripts & Letters to stop schools from brushing you off and force a real response
✅ Root Cause Guide so you can pinpoint what’s really going on (sensory, anxiety, EF overload, trauma, accommodations gap, etc.)
✅ Parent Action Plans what to do while you wait for school to act, how to track patterns, and how to regulate home stress
✅ Accommodations Menu what you can ask for (shortened day, mental health supports, staff changes, and more)
✅ Parent Reminders because you’re not crazy, you’re not making excuses, and your child is asking for help the only way they know how

Every school email carries weight.
But here’s the truth: schools have their own coded language. Unless you know how to translate it, those “concerns” can become labels that follow your child for years.

This guide is your Rosetta Stone for school-speak:

✅ 30 Common School Phrases , decoded & reframed
✅ Exact advocacy “power moves” for each phrase
✅ High-stakes red flags to shut down before they stick
✅ Ready-to-send email scripts for teachers & meetings
✅ ND nervous system reset toolkit so you don’t hit “send” in panic mode
✅ Case studies showing how one reframe can change an entire record

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